Sometimes relationships get a bad rap. The stereotypical person doesn’t do all of the following things, all the time. In truth, when a person finds the individual they know they’ll be spending the rest of their life with, they’ll certainly work their hardest to keep that person by their side. If you have a partner that sticks to the following list, you know you’ve got a keeper. Read on and see the signs of a partner you should keep.
They are fully committed to both you and the relationship
Being there through the fun times is easy. It’s when times get hard that it’s essential that you work together towards your common goal. Lifetime partners don’t run out after a little fight, and they don’t take it out on their significant others when they’re in a terrible mood. They appreciate how essential their bond is, and won’t let anything at all get in the way of protecting it.
They don’t sidestep difficulties
A committed partner doesn’t skedaddle when things get challenging. And they also don’t contain their feelings until they explode. If something is bothering them within the relationship, they bring the problem up sensibly and courteously. They will be comfortable talking through the issues they’ve been experiencing, and will make a authentic effort to remedy any issue that plagues the relationship. They understand that even major problems don’t define a relationship; it’s how you both work through them together that does.
They pay attention to the details
If they lived alone, they probably wouldn’t care if the laundry wasn’t done, the garbage overflowing, or if the only thing to eat in the house was yesterday’s pizza and beer. But they know you care about these things, so he takes time away from what he enjoys doing to make sure the house is clean and the fridge is stocked. They will rarely watch a movie you both love without you next to them, and they ask you to pick the music in the car. Even if they really, really loathe Blue’s…
They are keen and sensible.
Of course you picked a smart person to be with. But the true measure of a person’s intelligence is not simply how they are, but what they do with their wisdom. Do they see things from an objective point of view? Are they able to give you great advice regarding situation you face? Can they empathize with you, so they understand what you’re going through, and not blow you off with half-hearted clichés? If you have all of this you can usually know they will be able to pass on great words of wisdom to your future children. And that counts…right?
They want you to feel good about yourself
They think you’re beautiful or handsome. But it’s not enough for him/her to think so; they also go the extra distance to make sure you know you’re desirable too. And it’s not just simple words of reassurance. They can sense when you think you’re having a bad day, and make it a point to help you get your energy back up. They’ll come up with ways to help you feel good, inside and out, irrespective of how you feel at the time. They’ll do whatever they can to make you see yourself as they see you.
Your problems become theirs
If something’s bothering you, it troubles them. They will help you take on your problems and work along side of you to figure out ways to solve them. Your issues may even keep them up at night, but that doesn’t bother them in the least. What does bother him is when you’re facing a problem that they can’t help you with. When these situations inevitably arise, they do the best they can to standing by your side no matter what.
They laugh at your mistakes.
Everyone makes mistakes, and they shrug yours off easily. If you say something that offends, they understand that you didn’t mean it. Just laugh it off will be their way, even if it stung a little. If you let them down in some way (like you had to stay late at work even though the two of you had movie plans), they won’t hold it against you. Yes, they are caring and sensitive, but they never make you feel bad for unintentionally or work related blunders.
They take their own mistakes seriously
On the other hand, anything they do that ends up hurting you will weigh heavy on their shoulders for a while. They rarely beat themselves up about much, but when he causes you pain, they’ll go the extra mile to right their wrongs. They will rarely tell you to “lighten up” or that they “were only kidding.” They know you well enough to know exactly what to do to harm you, but they would never in a million years dream of doing such a thing.
There are indeed millions of things to look for in a life partner and these are only a few of the important ones. Be on the look out for one who does most of these and the other things that are important to you and make your relationship that special one to keep for the rest of your life.
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Frank Hopkins is a life coach in Baton Rouge who is certified as a Professional Coach (CPC) by the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC). Frank has helped numerous people to go through emotional change in a way that is positively transformative.