You loved your life when looked at it last. That was about five years ago. Now you find yourself wondering, “is this really how life is supposed to be lived?” You wonder if you are living it to your fullest extent. Here are some things to think about as you consider if your life is making you, or are you making your life.
“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”
- Can You Remember Your Priorities?
Remember when you wrote down your top three priorities in that training class? Well, perhaps it’s time to write them down again and compare them to what is happening in your life. Are you living according to your priorities? Do you live moment to moment? If you spend your time doing the important things, you will feel more fulfilled than if you live each day like the fabled grasshopper. If you don’t pay attention to what is important to you, and make sure they are really the right things for you, no one else will
- Friday Never Comes Soon Enough.
We all love Friday fun day. That being said, if you really do love your work, just about every day is a fun day. If you save it all for the weekend, there is no way you can actually do it all. Living goes on every day. Now don’t get me wrong, it’s great to have a fun plan for the weekend, but what if you could finally look forward to every—if not most—days? It will take some mindful introspection, but you can find the life you love, and when you do, it will change everything, even Monday mornings.
- You Are Only You, On Vacation.
Vacations can be experiences you remember your entire life; they can change everything. But how about planning a life that doesn’t make you feel like you need a vacation. Indeed, vacations are fun. How does it sound to have a life that lights you up rather than having to go half way around the world for a break? When you think about it, out of 52 weeks available to you in a year, two weeks isn’t really that long a stay.
- You fail to Understand the Last Section.
If you aren’t finding your passion in the way you are living now, you aren’t likely to if you keep doing the same thing day after day. You may need to make some time to find new areas of interest. You have an interest already, you say? Uh, if you don’t have lots of interests, say 10 or 15, how do you expect to find one or two things you are passionate about?
Experiment, meet new people, see new things, try reading, go to a museum or a car race. I don’t really care. I’m ok if you are out there looking for something that interests you. From that, if you are lucky, you will find something that you can be passionate about and off your life goes in a new direction. Trust me, if you do that, you wont have to go away for two weeks to “find yourself,” you will already know yourself.
- How Friendly Are You With the Green Eyed Monster?
- “They” have it and you don’t?
How often do you feel jealous of people around you? If you are jealous, you may be making some or all of these mistakes:
- Are you failing to make your focus the experience, or the journey, not the destination? Sometimes it means getting away from social media. That way you can make sure that the path is the one that you want and not someone else’s.
- Did you know that jealousy comes from desire. The desire to have the skills or traits of the person you are jealous? A better cook, host, computer programmer; whatever. Just don’t forget you can learn from this very person and gain these desired skills yourself.
- Make sure you really want that thing you are jealous of. If you don’t want it just support your friend and decide not to be
- jealous of something you have decided you don’t want anyway.
Remember how important it is to just be yourself. Don’t spend your life living someone else’s goals. When you feel the “Green Eyed Monster’s” ugly thoughts, ask yourself this one, Do those things you are envious of fit within your structure of priorities, passions, strengths? Is it just the next valueless shiny thing you saw today?
- Never Leaving Your Comfort Zone.
In his book, Life Begins At The End Of Your Comfort Zone, K.M. Gramlich says your life becomes more amazing choosing to stretch outside of what was comfortable for you yesterday. He says that Life is too short not living to your fullest potential. The problem is that none of us are, at first, anywhere near comfortable pushing our limits. Imagine your life when you give it a try, push those limits, learn the edge of your comfort and become the very best person you can be.
- No matter what, make choices and keep moving!
Frank Hopkins is a certified Professional Coach (CPC) by the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC). He is a certified Master Practitioner (ELI-MP) of the iPEC proprietary assessment tool, the Energy Leadership Index and offers seminars on Energy Leadership. He maintains memberships in the International Coaching Federation (ICF) and the Institute of Coaching (ICPA)