“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”
Are you still trying to figure out what you want in life? If that’s case, here are some things to think about that will help.
If You Don’t Want It, Get Rid of It
Most people have this messed up way of finding their passion. They start rooting through things that interest them at the same time they are slammed with work, and have a schedule that is almost out of control. Then, because they are already stressed, they add to that stress by trying to figure out what inspires them at their moment of lowest energy. Then out of frustration, many people give up thoughts of finding a life they love and settle for something less; sometimes a lot less.
Try this for a change: Focus on getting what you don’t want out of your life. I know that I am always preaching about keeping positive motion and attitude in your life, but there are times when you actually do need to look seriously at what you don’t want. Get rid of the useless stuff in your life, the toxic people, the time-sucking activities and all the things that drain the life out of you. Practice saying “no” to things that don’t align with your values and priorities. That will give you more time to say “yes” to the things that really matter in the long run. It really is all on you to find, or create, the time and room in your life for the things and people you want in it. No one is coming to do it for you.
Making Decisions is The Path to Clarity
Clarity comes from taking action. Self-discovery is important, and there are lots of ways to help you better understand your unique strengths and what kind of personality you have. As a life coach, I can work with you to recognize attitude changes in yourself. It can be eye opening, and with this knowledge, you can indeed make better decisions. That being said, self-discovery alone won’t get you to the goal line. If you really are serious about getting clarity in your life, you need to get out from behind your computer, or computer game and take some real, old-fashioned action. Let me say it again: Clarity comes from action.
If you aren’t taking big time action then you need to get out there and get started. In the final analysis, it doesn’t matter how good or smart you are, what your scores on standardized tests or your grades in college were, you won’t really know what you want to do until you get up and do SOMETHING. You are going to have to take action to begin finding clarity. You want to write a book, design a computer game, become a blogger, whatever; you have to get up and start. There are thousands of ways to begin, way too many to list here but they are out there. Go find them. Listen to that feeling in your heart that tells you that this is something that you love. Go for it and remember: You don’t always need a plan, sometimes you just need the balls to start.
Your Comfort Zone Isn’t Your Safe Zone
If you haven’t found what you love from the way you are doing things now, you probably won’t unless you change what you are doing. If the same old routine is crushing your soul, then you might need to change your routine. Shake some things up; if you haven’t found it yet in your comfort zone you aren’t going to. The things you are dreaming of aren’t in your comfort zone. They will be found out in the big, wide, intimidating world.
Figuring out what you want from and in life isn’t always as easy it seems, but you can do it! Give the points above some thought and then do something; you will be taking the baby steps to getting the life you want to live.
PS: You can take giant leaps if you have the nerve!
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Frank Hopkins is a certified Professional Coach (CPC) by the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC). He is a certified Master Practitioner (ELI-MP) of the iPEC proprietary assessment tool, the Energy Leadership Index and offers seminars on Energy Leadership. He maintains memberships in the International Coaching Federation (ICF) and the Institute of Coaching (ICPA).